Workplace

Maternity Leave Stigma

Women take maternity leave to bond with their child and recover from childbirth, and any related complications, without fear of losing their job, benefits, company seniority, and so forth, which are protected under the Family Medical Leave Act. These protections, however, are not able to sever the stigma that many women find is still attached to taking maternity leave.

Though it is against the law to not hire or to fire someone who can perform the basic functions of the job just because she is pregnant or on maternity leave, the reality remains that many women in the workforce are treated unfairly after revealing news of their pregnancy or going on maternity leave.

Maternity Leave Stigma

 

While working mothers are able to take maternity leave and are protected against job loss, their careers may be impacted by the stigma around actually taking maternity leave. Many women who take maternity leave report being treated differently at work upon their return. For instance, close relationships with colleagues become distant and strained, or clients and projects that were closely managed prior to maternity leave are reassigned and not returned.

 

Due to the stigma around taking maternity leave, some working mothers do not take the 12 weeks of maternity leave that is allotted by law. Many return to work early and report feeling pressured not to take more time off.

 

What You Can Do

 

Returning to work after maternity leave is a time of high stress for most parents. While many are excited to return to work, they are concerned about childcare options, nursing, being away from their child for long hours, and several other issues. The stigma around maternity leave creates even more stress for returning mothers as there is often a sense of not knowing what to expect.

 

Some companies offer great support to new mothers returning from maternity leave, including flexible hours, telecommuting, and other benefits. If this is not the case at your company, or you aren’t sure whether or not it is, speak to your direct manager or a Human Resource representative about what options may be available to you. While you may not be able to change the stigma around maternity leave, taking an active step toward open communication with your employer may be of help. Below is a list of topics that serve as an example of points you can discuss.

 

 

Maternity Leave Points of Discussion:

 

• Is it possible to have a transition back to work? Begin working a few days a week and working back up to five?
• Is telecommuting an option? If so, how frequently?
• Is there flexibility in the hours I am expected to be in the office?
• Is there flexibility in avoiding scheduling meetings early in the morning or late in the afternoon?
• Is there a private space with an outlet so that I can pump?
• What level of communication should I maintain with the office while on leave?

 

For many women, taking maternity leave and returning from leave are both exciting and stressful times. While some company cultures still maintain a stigma around taking maternity leave, the trend is changing and many companies do offer support to new mothers returning to work. There are also some things that you can do ahead of time to help set up work expectations while you are on leave and as you return.

 

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Sources:

https://www.womenshealth.gov/pregnancy/youre-pregnant-now-what/know-your-pregnancy-rights

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/labor-and-delivery/in-depth/working-life/art-20045470

 

Relocating for Work

Many people find themselves in the position of facilitating a job relocation. It may be that you have taken a new job, are part of a restructure in your organization, or have been promoted within your current company and you are now relocating for your new role. The relocation may be somewhat local, across the country, or abroad.

 

Regardless of why you are relocating, it can be a stressful undertaking, though it can also be an exciting opportunity. Making the best of this situation will likely require planning and preparation. Below are lists of things that you can do to ensure a successful job relocation.

 

 

Before the Move

 

Before you actually begin planning for the move, you want to make sure that you have all of the information that you need. Here are some questions to consider:

 

• Did you negotiate relocation benefits?
• Can you have a “try out” period before committing permanently?
• Is the move temporary or permanent in the foreseeable future?
• Are you provided with housing or do you need to find your own accommodations?
• If you are provided housing, is it furnished or unfurnished? The answer to this question will help determine if you need to take your belongings, only some of them, or nothing more than a laptop and some clothing.
• Are you moving out of your current residence, selling your home, subletting, or keeping it as is? Depending on your answer to this question, you may want to consult with a realtor, property management company, or other professional.
• Do you need to make storage arrangements?
• Who is moving with you? If you are moving with kids, you may need to arrange childcare or their school enrollment prior to moving. Experts also suggest that you talk to your kids about the move starting from the early planning stages. Keeping them a part of the process will help as they go through the stresses of relocation.
• What time of year will you be moving? Is the weather going to be different than in your current location? Do you need to prepare for that?
• Are you moving with your partner? Does he or she need to find new career options when you move? If so, they may need to begin the processing of applying or networking now.

 

These questions are only some of the things you may need to consider prior to moving. In this stage, you want to collect as much information as possible on what you can expect in your new location as well as what resources you will have available to you as you move and settle in.

Once you have prepared for the move, there are several things that you can do to ensure a successful process during the move.

During the Move

As you find yourself in the midst of packing and moving, be sure to hire a reliable moving company, have internet and phone services set up in your new location, cancel all such services in your current residence if you will no longer need them, and most of all, stay organized.

• Children – Confirm that you have childcare and/or school arrangements in the new location.
• Belongings — Keep everything organized, what you will not need should be disposed of, stored, or staying in your current residence. Everything you will need should be packed and on its way to your new residence.
• Pets – If you have pets you may need to have accommodations set up specifically for their move.
• Work – Stay in communication with the company to ensure that you will be where you need to be when you need to be there. Long distance moves can have unexpected delays or challenges, staying in communication will help avoid misunderstandings.
• Medications – If you are taking any medications be sure to have the proper amount that you need until you are able to go to a physician in your new area.

There are many details to attend to as you are relocating for work, but the experience can be a successful one as long as you stay organized.

After the Move

Regardless of how exciting of an opportunity you may have with the relocation, uprooting your life can be challenging and stressful. Give it time — experts advise that the first six months of any move are the most challenging. If you are moving alone, you may want to enroll in classes or other activities outside of work to help create a new social circle or support system.

 

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Sources:

https://hbr.org/2018/12/how-to-decide-whether-to-relocate-for-a-job

https://hbr.org/2018/08/the-who-where-and-why-of-moving-for-a-new-job

 

Dealing With Pregnancy at Work

Being pregnant at work can add extra responsibilities and considerations to an already busy day. As the body works overtime to help the baby develop, it is important to take notice of how to stay rested, healthy, comfortable, and safe. 

Staying Comfortable

Common pregnancy issues such as fatigue, swelling, and nausea don’t take a break just because you are at work. In order to continue working through a pregnancy, the first step is to speak with a doctor to learn about any specific concerns or issues to be aware of. Every pregnancy is different, but most women can continue working as long as they make some modifications.

• If nausea is a primary concern, have ginger ale, ginger candy, or ginger tea on hand. It can also be wise to avoid staying in the cafeteria or break room for too long, since certain smells can make nausea worse. Many doctors also suggest eating small meals every two hours, to help aid in digestion. Bland snacks are best, such as crackers, pretzels, or cereal, but listen to your body and what it can tolerate; it is likely that your comfort foods may change periodically.
• If you feel fatigued, you can consider prioritizing and cutting down on the activities that are not high on your list. It is important to get adequate rest, so going to bed early, as well as resting while you are awake, will help you get through the workday. Eating foods high in iron and protein can also help. While at work, drink plenty of water and take frequent breaks.
• To prevent swelling, practice sitting with good posture, in a chair with lower back support. If you sit for most of the day, get up frequently to walk around, even if it is just to the water fountain and back. Some jobs require standing for long periods of time; if this is the case, make sure to have comfortable shoes with good support, and try propping one foot up at a time, and alternating feet.

Avoiding Hazards

When pregnant, your body can be more susceptible to certain hazards. It is smart to speak with your doctor as well as whoever directs health and safety at your workplace, to learn about what changes you should take to keep you and your baby safe. For a more complete list of hazards, check out www.cdc.gov and search for The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH) and pregnancy in the workplace.  

• Proper PPE at Work – Personal Protective Equipment (PPE) is one of the most important safety precautions while on the job. Examples include gloves, goggles, ear protection, and protective clothing. As your metabolism and body changes, it may be necessary to upgrade or change out what types of PPE you are utilizing. Some gloves only provide minimal protection from chemicals and some respirators may make it too hard to breathe while pregnant. If you have questions, make sure to ask.
• Preventing Take Home Exposure – Some chemicals or other substances may travel home with you or a loved one and can still be dangerous. To prevent contaminating your home with substances such as pesticides, lead, or anything else brought home from the job, practice these habits:
  • Keep soiled clothes at work, separate from clean clothes that get worn home, or have a spot at home that is reserved for dirty work clothes.
  • Take shoes off outside house.
  • Wash hands and/or shower before leaving work, or do so immediately when you get home.
• Decrease Chance of Injury – Pregnancy causes changes in balance and flexibility, increasing chances for falls and sprains. Utilize proper lifting form every time you have to lift something by bending your legs, keeping the load close to your body, and avoiding twisting. Get up slowly and pay attention to how steady you feel.
• Decrease Chance of Illness – Immune systems also change during pregnancy, making you more susceptible to getting sick. Wash hands often, stay hydrated, keep a healthy diet, and avoid people and places where illness is present, as much as possible.

Pregnant Rights

Workplace discrimination and harassment does happen to women who are pregnant, but is illegal thanks to the Pregnancy Discrimination Act.  This act helps to make sure that pregnant women are guaranteed equal treatment and a woman’s pregnancy cannot legally influence factors such as hiring, firing, pay, and benefits. Women who are pregnant and unable to work can, in some cases, be treated the same as any other employee with a disability. This might include work assigning less demanding tasks, or giving short-term leave. In some cases  (depending on the size of the employer and how long the employee has been with the employer) a woman might qualify for the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) which would allow for 12 weeks of leave (paid or unpaid, based on what employee has earned). To learn more about pregnancy rights, search for “pregnancy rights” on the websites for the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission  www.eeoc.gov or the U.S. Department of Labor www.dol.gov.

 

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Sources

• https://www.womenshealth.gov/pregnancy/youre-pregnant-now-what/know-your-pregnancy-rights
• https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/pregnancy.cfm
• http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/pregnancy-week-by-week/in-depth/pregnancy/art-20047441
• https://www.cdc.gov/niosh/topics/repro/pregnancy.html

 

Workplace Etiquette

Etiquette is not a lost art. Knowing the proper ways to present yourself in a certain situation can help to make sure that you are moving toward success. This is especially true at work. If you have ever had a co-worker who ignores certain common courtesies, you know how distracting it can be.

Those distractions can also have negative effects on your team. Ignoring etiquette in the workplace can decrease productivity and team morale, and increase stress and frustration. Often, this becomes a never-ending cycle of negativity. To prevent this, there are many ways to practice workplace etiquette.

Return to the Basics

Saying “please” and “thank you” will provide a stable foundation in any situation. Whether you are the boss or a brand new intern, these words never go out of style. It is also a smart consideration to practice being on time – even early – for meetings. Once at your meetings, be fully present. This means putting your cell phone on silent and in your pocket, while participating in the topic being discussed.

Since each workplace is different, it is smart to review your employment manual, likely given to you when hired, to make sure that you are following workplace rules. This should cover appropriate clothing, technology use, and conflict management. If you do not know where your copy is, check with your Human Resources department. Making sure that you and your co-workers are on the same page can help prevent conflicts.

Cubicle Tips

Working in a cubicle environment provides its own set of rules as privacy is at a minimum. One of the main ways to approach a co-worker who works in a cubicle is to pretend that they are in their own office (because in a sense, they are). When it comes to your own actions at your desk, however, remember that you are not in an office. After taking those factors into account, follow some of these tips:

• If you need to speak with a co-worker, try knocking on their cubicle wall. If they are not able to be disturbed, they can let you know with a raise of the hand, without hopefully being too thrown off from whatever task they were doing (even if it seemed like nothing to you).
• At your own desk, consider making a sign that says “Please Do Not Disturb” if you are working on an item with a deadline.
• Respect co-workers space and property by always asking to borrow an item that they have in their area. If they are not available, find another source.
• Do your best to keep your eyes on your own work, and off of theirs.
• When speaking on the phone, try to use a pleasant telephone voice that is loud enough that you can be heard on the other line, but not so loud that you are distracting those around you. Avoiding speakerphone is also helpful.
• Consider keeping your personal phone on silent, and discussing confidential and personal topics in another location.
• Decorate your cubicle to express your personality and motivate you, but remember that your co-workers and bosses will walk by. Keep your cubicle classy and respectful.

Things to Consider in Shared Spaces

There is more to consider than property and noise concerns at work. All of our senses are involved in our workday, and should be thought of when interacting with co-workers.

• Your selected lunch might smell appetizing to you, but not so much to those around you. Keep your food in the cafeteria and try not to eat at your desk. Taking a lunch break can also help you feel better and re-focus your work when you start up again.
• Pay attention to noises that you make that could be distracting or rude to others. Some examples include pen-tapping, chewing gum, or sighing.
• Some people have a strong reaction to scented products such as perfume, cologne, and lotions. Choose mildly scented products, and keep your application minimal.
• Keep yourself and your area clean: bring your lunchbox home every day and clean it out, maintain an organized system for tasks, and put your garbage in designated areas.
• When you are sick, keep your germs at home and away from your co-workers. Consider attending important meetings via phone or video chat. If you must go to work, keep hand sanitizer and tissues within reach.

Conflict Resolution Tips

If you are noticing someone causing problems in your work place, consult your Employment Manual for how to resolve conflicts according to protocol. If appropriate, speak with your co-worker about their behavior. Approach them with respect and focus on the benefits that can arise from some changes, while also helping to seek solutions. If problems are not getting better, or are getting worse, speak to your supervisor or a representative from Human Resources to help resolve the issue.   

 

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Sources:

• https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/capitalbusiness/career-coach-15-rules-of-etiquette-for-the-cubicle/2011/08/10/gIQARJKXFJ_story.html?utm_term=.12a80367a7bbBe
• https://www.nic.edu/modules/images/websites/15/file/The%20Fine%20Art%20of%20Cube%20Etiquette.pdf
• https://www.forbes.com/sites/lisaquast/2014/04/07/office-etiquette-tips-to-overcome-bad-manners-at-work/#3228730a4a37

 

 

 

Avoiding Burnout

There are many “outs” in life.  We can be stressed out, worn out, and experience burnout.  As passionate as we may feel about our work, we are all susceptible to burnout if we fail to exercise good self-care and relaxation techniques.  Burnout is a constant feeling of physical, mental, and/or emotional exhaustion and pessimism in the workplace.  This usually results in a decline in performance and passion.  You may experience doubt over your job competence and value in the workforce.    

Early Signs of Burnout

There are several early warning signs of burnout.  Do you dread coming back from vacation?  Are you experiencing interpersonal problems at work and home, growing irritable and impatient?  Do tasks you once enjoyed no longer excite you?  Can you concentrate easily on assignments?  Is your overall attitude pessimistic toward your coworkers and your performance?  These questions are all indicators of a burnout.  There are also several health problems that may arise from chronic stress in the workplace.  Burnout symptoms have been linked to anxiety, depression, digestive problems, weight fluctuations, and changes in sleep patterns. 

 

Triggers of Burnout

What ultimately leads to workplace burnout?  It’s different for everyone and could be a variety of items or one major one.  Here are some possibilities:

• Limited or no control- Perhaps your schedule or job requirements are determined for you- without your input. Lacking sufficient resources to do your job effectively may also trigger burnout.  
• Expectations- If an employer anticipates a higher performance than possible, this could cause an increase in stress. Also, when expectations are unwritten or unclear, this brings confusion and interpersonal turmoil. 
• Job mismatch- Are you currently in a position not suited for your skillset or interests? Boredom, frustration, and long term stress may occur. 
• Social dynamics- It’s no secret there are introverts and extroverts. Some people work best in solitude; while others would not.  Isolation could lead to internal and/or external stress. 
• Clashing values- Differences in values or convictions can be deeply felt. Situations resulting from a clash in business ethics may produce emotional stress.
• Out of balance- When work begins to eat up your energy and time for family or social events resentment may appear and accelerate to burnout.

Preventing Burnout

Far from being inevitable, burnout is actually preventable.  Consider putting these practices in place to help in avoiding workplace burnout:

• Take small breaks- Your overall performance can be impacted negatively by failing to take (short) breaks. Concentration wanes after a long, laborious stretch; so take a quick five or ten minutes.  Your brain will thank you. 
• Evaluate- Take a step back to see how you are using your time. Where and when are you most productive?  How is the quality of your work?  Being efficient does not equal being effective.  Take inventory and prioritize your time. 
• Set vacations in stone- If you are financially able, plan that trip today. It will give you something to anticipate.  Or consider doing a “staycation,” and treat yourself to some rest and relaxation. 
• Reward yourself weekly- Establish a routine that invests in you. Perhaps, schedule a dinner out with the family or coffee with a friend.  You will be more motivated to complete a task when you have something fun to look forward to each week.
• Determine what’s urgent- We are easily distracted by items we label as urgent. Whether that’s email, phone calls, or administrative work, set less-urgent tasks aside for later. This will increase your productivity and help you feel more organized.
• Build community with coworkers- Relationships with positive people who inspire and motivate you are important. Negativity breeds exponentially, so look for coworkers who can empathize with your challenges and encourage you.   
• Note your negative feelings- Pay attention to your negative thoughts and jot them down. Which of these situations can you control?  Focus on what you can change about your work and environment.  This mindset allows you to control more choices in your career.
• Engage new passions- Look for a new hobby to catch your interest during the week. Often, new activities reignite passions for forgotten interests.
• Unplug your devices- Avoid checking your office email, voicemail, and logging in to do work when you’re not in the office. Maintaining a clear distinction between work and home allows you to be fully present and enjoy whichever one you choose.
• Practice self-care- Taking care of yourself with proper rest, exercise, and nutrition is essential to reducing your risk for or managing existing burnout.  Research shows that less than six hours of sleep nightly speeds your chance of burning out.  Good self-care, conversely, will bring you more energy and increase your productivity. 

If you think you may be experiencing signs of job burnout, ignoring the symptoms is never the best decision.  Ask your doctor or schedule an appointment with a mental health professional before you feel worse.  Implementing these strategies, as well as healthy self-care, will help restore the passion for what you enjoy most.  

 

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Sources:

http://fortune.com/2012/10/08/5-ways-to-avoid-burnout-at-work/

http://idealistcareers.org/5-things-you-can-do-each-day-to-prevent-burnout/

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/adult-health/in-depth/burnout/art-20046642?pg=1

 

 

 

Bouncing Back: Leaning to be Resilient

Resilience is the ability to adapt well in response to stressful events. In our lives we may experience tragedy, adversity, or real or perceived sources of stress. These events can occur in our family or significant relationships, workplace, health, or financial situations. 

Resilience is not something you either have or don’t have.  While many people are naturally resilient in some ways, it is also a skill that can be developed and even learned. With practice, you can learn behaviors, thoughts, and actions to help you bounce back after trials.

We are all still human no matter how resilient we are. We have emotional and even physical responses to a bad day, but we can train our mind and bodies to bounce back. When individuals find it too difficult to recover from hardship, there is a greater chance of experiencing anxiety, depression, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). 

Qualities of Resilience

 

What does a resilient person look like?  Typically, a person who adapts well to stressful life experiences is also a good communicator and problem-solver.  He or she is able to identify and control their emotions rather than be mastered by them.  Resilient people have strong self-confidence and self-esteem, believing in their abilities. They are able to set goals, make plans, and follow through with them.  They also don’t hesitate to lean on supportive family or other relationships like friends, support or faith-based groups, or mental health professionals, such as a licensed counselor or therapist. 

 

Building Resilience in Stressful Times

 

Do you consider yourself a person who bounces back from life’s challenges and setbacks?  Someone who lacks resilience may focus on life’s problems and feel like a victim.  Others may turn to unhealthy behaviors or develop a substance abuse problem.  There are genuine ways to improve your reaction to the life’s challenges.  Consider the following ideas as resiliency strategies:

• Build relationships- Reconnect with friends and family. Join a local support group or community organization.  Check out a faith-based group for support or to aid others.  Helping another person in need helps you find hope in your own stressful times.
• Be confident in decisions- Make a plan for change and stick with it. Worrying about problems or avoiding them entirely will not change your current reality.  Focus on your abilities, and trust your instincts. 
• Be goal-focused- Instead of feeling overwhelmed by what you cannot do or control, start with small, attainable goals. These should be measurable, so you can celebrate your accomplishments.
• Accept what you cannot change- We cannot avoid everything in life. Focus on your reactions to stress and what you can change instead of the inevitable.
• Focus on the facts- Most of our worries in day-to-day life are about what could happen rather than what we’re actually facing. Sticking to the facts of the situation rather than your fears of what could be can help you focus on finding a solution.
• Discover what’s new- Every challenge you face is a new opportunity to grow. Do you see any positive traits you’ve acquired as a result or in spite of tough times?  Seeing challenges as an opportunity to improve your life can eliminate stress.
• Taking care of you- There is no substitute for proper rest, nutrition, exercise, and relaxation techniques. The more healthy energy you have, the more you’ll be able to bounce back.
• Laugh- Remember to laugh. Resiliency experts have found that the ability to laugh at life helps people cope better through difficult times.  Laughter can even ease physical, emotional, and mental pain.

The Benefits of Growing in Resilience

There are several advantages to building resilience.  One of the greatest benefits is the ability to learn from your experiences and see them as opportunities.  When life is viewed from this perspective it is easier to adapt to new situations and remain hopeful in the face of uncertainty. 

 

There are questions you can ask yourself to find the right strategy for learning to bounce back. Consider the following:

What stressful events have I already experienced? 

Who did I reach out to during these times? 

What did I learn?

What or who gave me hope?

How was I able to overcome? 

 

Finally, be courageous and ask for help when you need it.  There are support groups and programs in your community that can help you you in stress and crisis.  There are countless resources online and in print for bouncing back after adversity.  A licensed mental health professional is also an excellent resource to learn resiliency.  You don’t have to wait for a crisis to practice building resiliency. Start building your bounce-back potential today.

 

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Sources:

http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/road-resilience.aspx

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/adult-health/in-depth/resilience/art-20046311?pg=2

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/adult-health/in-depth/resilience/art-20046311

Compulsive Gambling

Humans can become addicted to many different behaviors and gambling is no exception.  Many people are able to gamble recreationally with little to no lasting effects.  However, others find the thrill of gambling addictive and return to it time and again despite incurring great costs in terms of their relationships, financial security and general wellbeing.

What is Gambling?

There are a variety of ways and reasons a person gambles.  While many people do gamble without causing significant problems, some develop problem gambling.  Problem gambling is defined as causing harm to the gambler or someone else, like a family member.  Even though a person may want to stop, the initial behavior leads to the more serious, compulsive gambling.   When someone struggles with compulsive gambling it causes problems in multiple areas of his or her life. 

 

Bingo, lottery tickets, casino games, online poker, and going to the racetrack are all examples of gambling.  Obviously, not everyone who gambles becomes addicted.  There is no easy formula for determining who develops an addiction to gambling.  Studies have indicated, however, that it is a combination of environmental, genetic, and biological factors. 

Determining a Gambling Problem

How do you know if you have a more serious gambling problem?  The following list of signs indicates the potential for gambling problems:

• Experiencing a thrill, or rush, from the experience of gambling.
• Lying about the behavior.
• Using work and family time to gamble.
• Feeling guilty about gambling but being unable to stop.
• Always thinking about the details of gambling.
• Using gambling to escape feelings of depression.
• Spending money on gambling instead of bills and needs.
• Borrowing or stealing money in order to gamble.

Studies have found that between two and four percent of Americans are problem gamblers. Gambling problems, according to some researchers, are more prevalent than alcohol dependence.

Access and Impact

Gambling is more prevalent than ever before because people have constant access to the thrill of the behavior through the Internet.  Beginning to gamble at an early age also increases the risk of developing gambling problems later in life.  Addictions are more common in men and those of lower socioeconomic status.  Like any addiction, compulsive gambling affects other aspects of life.

• Physical- Poor physical health and excessive drinking and smoking are common results of compulsive gambling.
• Relational- Family conflict may occur, especially if an individual is lying to others about the behavior and sacrificing family time for gambling. In addition, if outstanding debts are owed, this may cause increasing problems among family and the lenders. 
• Financial- Bankruptcy and debt are typical end results of compulsive gambling, and the impact of poor financial decisions can take years to amend.
• Emotional- Symptoms of depression and anxiety are common and may lead the gambler to suicide or other harmful behaviors.
• Legal- Criminal activity and other illegal tactics are often seen as a “needed” last resort to continue the behavior or to attempt to pay off debt.

Help and Hope

A compulsive gambling addiction does not need to be the last round in the game of life.  There are many professional treatment options as well as support groups like Gamblers Anonymous.  You can also ask your doctor or a mental health professional for support.  Before your first appointment, prepare yourself by considering these questions and steps:

• Write down your feelings about gambling. What are the triggers that make you want to gamble more?  How have you tried to stop?  How has gambling impacted your life?
• Make a list of all the current stressors in your life. Be sure to include all that apply (i.e. family, financial challenges, relational problems, work issues, etc.).
• Consider and write down questions you might have for your doctor. These might be:
  • What professional or treatment program options are most beneficial?
  • What written materials would he or she recommend?
  • What community resources and support groups are available?
• Plan to talk to your doctor about whether you meet the criteria for a gambling disorder, as indicated in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) published by the American Psychiatric Association. Your doctor or mental health professional might want to rule out other diagnoses before they recommend treatment.  

Freedom from a compulsive gambling addiction is possible and available to you.  Learning and maintaining alternative ways of coping with life will help aid in the recovery process.  To start, you can make a list of all the risks you take when you gamble.  Are the costs to you and your loved ones outweighing the potential benefits?  Those with a compulsive gambling addiction will more than likely answer yes to this question. 

Finally, remind yourself there is no shame in asking for help.  Determination and will power are often not powerful enough to overcome the gambling impulse, and you are not alone in this struggle. Help is available, along with the hope of a better life.  The benefits of taking control over gambling addictions of all levels are exceedingly more valuable than any payout. 

 

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Sources:

http://newsinhealth.nih.gov/issue/May2011/Feature1

http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/compulsive-gambling/basics/prevention/con-20023242